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• A case for divorce

• The Golden Thread

• Order matters

• Hitler’s Famous Painting

Years ago I had a mentor tell me he would divorce his wife if she came between him and his mission…

Initially it filled me with disgust.

Knowing his wife personally, the statement seemed harsh and unfeeling.

But yet, I haven’t been able to shake that perspective.

… and within the last year I’ve come to appreciate the wisdom in the statement.

In the beginning [like all the way back]

Genesis, the first book of the Bible, God establishes an order of priorities for humanity to follow.

Maker —> Mission —> Mate

Creation of Man

“Let US make man in Our image, according to Our likeness […] and the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.” - Genesis

This is the first act of creation by the maker.

Whatever your faith is — there is a divine order.

He who made it comes first.

Assignment of Mission

Following the creation, God gives Adam [the first man] a mission that precedes any other relationship or responsibility.

In Genesis we read:

Adam’s mission was simple.

Take care of paradise and don’t eat from this one tree.

This command not only establishes a clear directive for Adam but also introduces the concept of free will and the inherent consequences of disobedience.

Introduction of a Mate

Welcome Eve, the crown of creation.

Can you imagine what it would have been like for the first man to set eyes on the first woman?

You know this feeling.

Better than a sunset, rainbow or the vastness of the ocean — nothing is more beautiful than a woman you have eyes on.

… and it should be noted that the sequence of events emphasizes that the introduction of a mate comes in the context of the mission, suggesting that relationships are to exist in harmony with God's initial purpose for humanity.

Master, Mission then Mate.

A divine order, one that, when disrupted, leads to destruction and the fall of man.

Every story has a villain and this one is no different.

The slippery snake — the devil in disguise whispers in Eve’s ear and convinces her to eat the forbidden fruit.

[Remember that one thing that God told Adam not to do?]

She took of the fruit and ate it — and gave some to her husband.

Adam, you literally had one job.

Mission: Failed.

After the sin there’s shame they hide from their maker and then Adam and Eve are cast out of paradise and burdened with the responsibility of humanity.

Now, I don’t think God is a punitive God waiting to punish and curse us…

But I do believe that when you deviate from the mission you will create destruction.

Every Man has a Mission

The Japanese have a word for it called Ikigai a concept that means "reason for being".

I like this image, but I have another symbol that serves me…

I call it the Golden Thread.

Like, ikigai, I believe it lives in the intersection what you’re good at, what the world needs, what you can be paid for and I’d also add what has caused you great pain — it’s there in the center that you’ll find the gift of who you are.

Gold because like a reflection in sunlight it is an unmistakeable flash of brilliance.

And a Thread because in the beginning its delicate, subtle and will blow away if you don’t weave it into something greater.

Your mission as a man is to find The Golden Thread and to weave it into the reality of your life.

To armor yourself in Gold and to become a warrior that leads others to their thread.

This is the way.

You’ve touched the thread.

If you’re an athlete or an artist you know that moment of flow when you are at your best and bring out the best in others.

But, even that misses the magic of what it really is.

It’s absolute certainty of your divine nature.

It is a reflection of the God within.

Hitler’s Famous Painting

Your GOLD and greatness has an enemy.

You can call it the devil, the serpent, the evil one or even PAM (Passive Aggressive Man) but whatever you call it you had better know it by name because that motherfucker is here to do one thing…

Stop your mission and destroy your world.

Steven Pressfield calls the ominous one Resistance a very real internal [and external] force set out to block your Golden Thread from shining to the world.

The Genesis narrative of Adam’s fall is not just about disobedience but a metaphor for the consequences of ignoring our true calling.

When a man doesn’t pursue his purpose — all he will create is pain.

This last few months I couldn’t help but think about my mentors statement again…

“I’d divorce my wife if she came between me and my mission.”

Once unsettling and harsh, now a deep sense of truth resonated.

Divorce would be a gift to the wife of missionless man.

He wasn’t saying it to be brutal — but as a great act of kindness.

It was painful to hear — but he had his priorities straight.

He knew himself well enough to know that he would cause far worse scarring if he stayed in anything that prevented him from living out his greatness.

A man without purpose will inadvertently foster pain and destruction, not just for himself but for those he loves.

Hear this, I’m not condoning divorce — neither was he.

In fact my mentor is still happily married and moving towards his mission.

And reminded me recently that the woman you choose is the single most important decision you will ever make — the right woman will be an asset and the wrong one will be a liability, so choose wisely.

But, here’s the kicker…

Without clarity on your purpose and mission you won’t have the wisdom to choose the right mate.

… or even worse you could turn the right woman into the wrong one because you failed to lead, the same way Adam did.

This why before you get in relationship [and definitely while you’re in one] you should clearly know what your MISSION is.

Why are you here?

Only you and the Maker can fully answer that… your mate certainly can’t.

The process of discovering your Golden Thread doesn’t just show up, you need to create it.

But you don’t have to do it alone.

In fact if you want to learn how almost 200 men have gotten crystal clear on their VISION AND MISSION check out this FREE 32 minute training on how to become a High Value Man.

It breaks down 6 Pillars that every Man must master to fulfill his Mission.

Vision. Values. Victories. Vices. Voice. Vocation.

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BTW, remember the painting that Hitler did?

Neither do I.

In the end, the lesson was clear:

Order matters. Master, Mission, then Mate.

Much Love,

E